Breaking Silence

Hi, it has been a while since I entered the blogosphere and I have started getting emails saying “where are you?” Well, I haven’t been anywhere, perhaps I have been away in my head, but not in my body. Rie has been away on a silent vipassana meditation retreat for a couple of weeks and I have joined her in spirit. It is funny how when we live in silence we often see the meaninglessness of sound. The world that we live in is full of noise. In my silent time I question ‘why?’

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Think about Sex Day – Valentine’s Day

I love this one. I guess that everyday is a national day for something or the other and now February 14 has been designated the ‘Think about Sex Day’ organised by the Sexual Advice Association.

In Britain we are lousy at talking about sex. When it comes to thinking about it we are not too bad. Statistics suggest that men have around nineteen sexual thoughts a day which is twice as many than women. From my work I think that this might be an under estimate, especially where men are concerned. Some of the men I work with would be having thirteen sexual thoughts an hour, or maybe more.

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Will you be my Valentine?

So what will you be getting your loved one this Valentine’s day?

February 14th is a celebration of love, happiness and relationships. Across the world people will be declaring and reaffirming love for each other in a tradition that goes back thousands of years. These different expressions of love will be as varied as the people who express them. Continue reading →

Happy Chinese New Year – The Year of the Dragon

Today is New Year in the Chinese system, it will mark the beginning of the one year in 12 presided over by a mythical creature – the dragon.

To the western mind, the dragon was always something to be feared, the fear of dragons living at the edge of the world, “there be dragons”.   Though the medieval knight, as a hero, would seek to fight the dragon as an honour.  This was as a moral victory, often set in a spiritual journey to spiritual perfection.  The myth was that of the knight slaying a dragon to save a maiden.  In psychology we would often use phrases such as “facing your dragons” as clients come to terms with their fears and phobias.  St George, the patron saint of England, was the quintessential hero and dragon slayer.

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The Past, The Present & The Future

Wow what an amazing year. January began with Rie starting her new job seeing all of her hard work coming into fruition.

Live in the Present published my first Tantra book, which has done so very well, the feed back and reviews have been amazing and the sales keep on growing, thank you to everyone who has purchased a copy.

We consistently appear in the top 10 on the Amazon Kindle Store including holding the number one position on a number of occasions. This has led me to write a second Tantra book that will be published in 2012. The ebook, in it’s variety of forms, a real revolution in action.

Taking inspiration from the Ten Steps programme we have written a new book Live In The Present which will be available very soon. This inspired our new site a hub of positive thoughts and ideas that will hopefully motivate and inspire all who visit. Continue reading →

New Beginnings Require Endings

Our collective psyche is filled with the idea that one thing follows another; when someone dies and then a baby is born, we see it as an ending and a beginning. We say things like, “when one door closes, another one opens”. The magical idea of endings and beginnings is with us throughout life. In the past, I feel that we were better at marking these rites of passage as we moved from one stage to another in life.

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And then there was light, and William arrived

Following the darkness of winter, that has its depth at the winter solstice and the longest night, comes the lightening, as the days draw out. This sense of the light coming to dispel the darkness has been ever present in the psychological cycle of the year. The festivals of Solstice (Yuletide), originally the three days around midwinter’s day, December 21st, was gradually superseded by Christmas or “Christmastide”. In some parts of the pagan world, the festival of “Yule” lasted for twelve days which became the twelve days of “Christmastide”.

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The Darkest Night

The winter solstice, December 21, is the longest night and the shortest day of the year. After that, the days begin to draw out again, the nights get shorter and the world becomes lighter all around.

I often see the parallels between nature and our experience of life. The idea that, in life, we have a spring, when we are developing our self as a person, a summer, when, hopefully, we blossom into luscious fruitfulness, autumn, when we review and enjoy the fruits of our labours, and a winter, when it all goes to sleep and there are endings, hopefully not too stormy.

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No-one ever changed the world by watching X Factor

Yesterday evening, my sister-in-law arrived collecting bits for children living on the streets. By kids, I mean teenagers, many still at school, and by bits, I mean food, basic cosmetics and the necessary to survive a night in the cold. Then on the TV comes X Factor.

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Remember, Remember, the End of Movember

It has been amazing to be a part of the Movember project. If you haven’t realised it, there are hundreds of thousands of men out there growing face hair to raise awareness of male-related cancer, primarily prostate cancer. I have had a face full of fuzz for a month and, if I am honest, it is driving me bonkers; I could scratch my face off.

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