The Month of Love - Life after Valentine
I am writing this on Valentine’s Day.  Over the last few days, especially on Saturday, the world seemed full of people buying cards, gifts and flowers.  In one shop, they were selling some very beautiful and special double-bloom roses at twice the price of the singles.  I heard one lady saying to her friend, “The men buying those ones are all having affairs and they feel guilty.”  Ouch! I wonder?  Maybe she is right.  Why is it that women tend not to buy men flowers?

This morning, I was awoken with a lovely cup of coffee, some chocolates, an amazing card and a dozen red roses.  Now, many people in Britain, or around the world, may find the idea of a woman giving a man flowers as wet or stupid.  Rie, thankfully, is an enlightened lady and she knows how much I love flowers and she has bought me wonderful blooms from when we very first met.

My houses have always been full of flowers.  I like both the colours and the perfume, but really don’t like flowers where they have bred all the perfume out in favour of enhanced colours.  My favourite are white lilies that are heavy with perfume.  The same is true for me in the workplace.  My consulting rooms in the hospital have always been decorated and furnished by myself and full of the perfume of flowers and fresh coffee.  There is something in my work as a psychotherapist that requires a working environment that is friendly and welcoming, so that clients are able to relax.  Now, many of my colleagues disagree with this and feel that the space should be analytical and clinical. This goes for the way that I dress as well.  If I wear a suit and tie, most clients call me “Dr” and develop a respectful distance.  To develop a holding environment in which the client can unburden themselves, there need to be a level of relaxation.  This is an act of love. To this end, I tend to dress down and then I can simply be “Sean”.

When we think of love, and today is a classic, we often think of it as an experience between two people or between a group of people, as in a family.  This is really stage one of love.  It is the first step on the ladder that can change the world.  If we open our minds and hearts to see love as an expansive, attractive force that brings people together, it is healing and problem-solving.  What about if we began to think in terms of “Teaching with love”, “Using love as a management tool”, “Working with love and care”? The list could be endless.

All the great leaders, philosophers and teachers  spoke in terms of forgiveness and letting go of the negative attachments to the past, while focussing on love, “love your enemies”, and creating a positive future. Imagine how good it would be if we took these wonderful feelings of love that the world can find on Valentine’s Day and spread them throughout the rest of the year.  So now all parents would parent with love, managers manage with love, teachers teach with love, politicians act with love, rulers rule with love, and we each begin to act only in ways that promote the well-being of those that we know or we meet.

If when you read the above paragraph, your thoughts were “well, what about me”, consider this.  If we all look after each other, everyone’s needs are met.  So if I look after others, in the end that will flow back to me.  This is the natural laws of karma.  If we continue to take the reverse view, as many do today, so that we each expect the rest of the world to meet our needs then, in the end, no-one’s needs are ever met.

We can only change the world by opting in.  The more we love, the more love there is.  The more we care, the more care there is.  These are not fanciful ideas or wishful thinking.  They are as sure as the law of gravity.  We all have a choice.  What choice will you make?

Let your love shine - With my love to you.

Sean xx

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